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Monday 27 April 2020

Kabir Singh and a Lazy Afternoon

I was going through a very difficult time in my life when my friend (philosopher and guide) Debdatta suggested I should write and put it in a blog. She actually gave me access to her personal blog, and the lazy me didn’t do anything concrete with it. 

After this lockdown, like many others, my husband is at home and eating my head along with sweets, biscuits, and every possible snack and bugging me to do something about my free time. My friends and husband seem to have a lot of confidence in me that I will do something good in life; however, I am happy with my lazy ass.

Yesterday, after a heated argument, which I think my hubby won, he convinced me to write. Therefore, here I am trying to collaborate one of my favorite subject Psychology with not at all favorite character Kabir Singh. 

Before I start, let me clarify that I am talking about Kabir Singh as a character, not Shahid Kapoor the actor.

The primary criticism the movie received is that it is promoting misogyny and being anti-feminist. However, I found the main problem in the movie is: The director is promoting a mental illness as a masculine trait and fun quality. Kabir Singh is clearly suffering from Intermittent Explosive Disorder (IED). It is a very much real disorder recognized by DSM (Diagnostic and Statistical Manual). The DSM-5 defines Intermittent Explosive Disorder as “recurrent behavioral outbursts representing a failure to control aggressive impulses.” (American Psychiatric Association, 2013)

From the very beginning of the movie till the end, there are multiple occasions where it is very evident that he needs some medical help, counseling, and medication. Having a mental disorder is not fun, like many other physical problems it needs to be treated. I actually felt like the director Sandeep Reddy Vanga trying to say like, “hey Kabir! You have a brain tumor (comparing IED with a physical disease to have a better understanding), it’s actually fun to have a deadly disease and the best part is you are not going to be treated, and most importantly, you are a doctor.”

For god’s sake get some treatment Kabir, you are a doctor, I am sure you know some good psychiatrists and they can give you some discount also. Anyhow, Kabir was consuming so many drugs; it won’t kill to replace them with some prescribed medicine. 

I am sure after the treatment, people will not call you a misogynist, and even if you still behave like a jerk with girls, you can definitely do something about it and get improved. But first, consult a psychiatrist.

And lastly, let me tell you who the main villain in the movie is… Any guess…

It is that dean of that medical college, he asked Kabir to write an apology letter for his aggressive and violent behaviors and didn’t bother to understand that he is sick with IED and needs to visit a psychiatrist. 

This is my two cents about Kabir Sigh. I hope I will not get back to my lazy routine and continue to write more. 

Please suggest to me something to write about. I struggle a lot with prospective topics. 



  1. True i totally agree. Then again today i read in a WhatsApp share that the patient/individual to psychologist/psychotherapist ratio in our country is very very low.. That is a giant problem..

    Hey and I think you write very convincingly. I think this is my second read in your blog and I can relate a lot.

    For topics, you can share your day to day thoughts, like sharing with a friend over coffee.. Or a book review, movie review, and things that bother you about people.. Personal/family anecdotes that find place in every get together. Travel stories..

    I am excited to read 😂😂

  2. Hi Priyanka, you must keep writing and write about any topic that catches your fancy.I haven't yet watched Kabir Singh, but I deliberately skipped it because of all the flak it received. However, the perspective you have presented here is unlike any other I have come across. Interesting and quite truthful!

  3. That mention of IED definitely makes sense in light of the character's behaviour in the movie. You do write well, Priyanka. Keep at it.

  4. Kabir Singh is a problematic is ways more than one! This is a very informative read.

  5. The overpowering personality of Kabir Singh worked in the favour of the film. This film was watched by the so-called Kabir Singhs in the making. It portrays a part of the society that exists, thanks to reviews like yours, one gets to see the perspective that touches another part of the society. Your review is very informative.

  6. I watched the original Telugu version and found the character extremely problematic , to an extent scary and creepy. It's sad and pathetic how the filmmakers try to romanticise such behaviour. Your post shed lot of insight and light regarding his character. Thanks for this informative post.

  7. I totally agree with your assessment of Kabir Singh. Another thing i failed to understand was why was he shown as such a prospective man. All women were ready to get laid with him. The movie has shown women in negative light along with promoting misogyny

  8. I had watched the movie and completely agree with your thoughts. I do not know why modern cinema is promoting such kind of things as a modern approach to entertain their audience. there are so many meaningful subjects are there, which movie makers cad choose to make something worth to watch.

  9. Kabir Singh was a movie that showed the extreme side of a personality. I quite agree with your thoughts keep writing.

  10. I haven't yet seen the movie - though will see it soon..