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Wednesday, 13 October 2021

You - #MyFriendAlexa

October 13, 2021 2 Comments



I saw you on a summer day
Standing on your porch...
Your unruly hairs were all over your face
As the rain soaked air passing by.

I was mesmerized by those...
self-absorbed eyes
You gave me a glance, and
I was drenched with spring

I wanted to hold this moment forever
You wanted to move on
I was shameless to ask for "you"
You were insolent and went on

I couldn’t control my desires
(Hence) I stored your memory in a wooden box,
You are safe with me now
Stored somewhere in my mind






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Thursday, 7 October 2021

Major Arcana: The Fool's Journey (Part 3) - #TuesdayTarot #MyFriendAlexa

October 07, 2021 5 Comments

 



Welcome back! This is the third instalment of The Fool's Journey. Be sure to start this section after you have completed Part 1 of The Fool's Journey & Part 2 of The Fool's Journey where we have covered the first 15 cards of the Major Arcana. Today we will cover the remaining seven cards.


15. The Devil


The Devil is the card of indulgences and material pleasure. When The Devil appears, it urges you to take a look at the feel good factors in your life and pay attention to whether they are actually good for you. In case the card pops up when you are feeling low, it may be a sign that a little fun may be exactly what you need.

For The Fool's next lesson in his journey, he needs to realise that The Devil isn't an outside influence. It is the little voice within us that makes us a slave to the material world and often lead us to ignorance and hopelessness. The power to overcome it is also within us.

Keywords:
Upright – Attachments, Restrictions, Commitment, Limitations
Reverse – Breaking Free, Quitting, Hitting Rock Bottom, Broken agreements and Commitments.

16. The Tower

Tower is the card for shock and Chaos. Something unexpected and surprising could shake up your beliefs, assumptions and the things you took for granted. Drastic changes are required.

The Fool realizes that sometimes a shock is exactly what one needs when they are too comfortable in their life not realising that people, things and situations in his life aren't actually serving him anymore. Time to make drastic changes.

Keywords:
Upright – Sudden Shock, Destruction, Questioning Beliefs, Chaos
Reverse – Warning, Mounting Pressure, Ongoing Chaos, Stubbornness

17. The Star

The Star is the card of hope, peace and Renewal. It brings optimism for a fresh start. It urges you to do what is practically required of you in the moment, but also continue dreaming of what an ideal future looks like to you.

After his entanglements with The Devil and The Tower, The Star brings in a serene calm for The Fool. He is now optimistic and feels the need to share his optimism for those around him. The Fool discovers the peace after a storm.

Keywords:
Upright – Optimism, Renewal, Boundlessness, Peace
Reverse – Hope without Action, Unethical Healer, Pessimistic Outlook

18. The Moon


The Moon is the card of darkness, illusion and the unconscious. It is time to let go the last bit of pretence and confront what you fear.

The peace after the storm can also be a deceiving feeling if there are things that you have not confronted from your past experiences. The Fool's lesson from this card is to take stock of everything around him and within him to be able to pick up on and false illusions that he still may be carrying with him.

Keywords:
Upright – The Unconscious, The Shadow Self, Confusion, Dreams, Intuition
Reverse – Denial, repressed emotions, Projecting onto Others

19. The Sun


The Sun is the card of light. It urges you to reveal and share your true feelings and emotions. It is also a time to celebrate and aligning yourself with your authentic self.

With this card, The Fool finally understand that no challenge is too much. He can face anything as long as he draws from his experiences and lessons to understand exactly how great his own capabilities are and is confident about them.

Keywords:
Upright – Enthusiasm, Clarity, Personal Growth, Self Acceptance
Reverse – Afraid to Shine, Burnout, Painful Truth, Attention Seeking

20. Judgement

Judgement is the card of drastic change, review and release. This is the one last reminder that change is inevitable and continuous. It urges you to look objectively at what has come before and measure up your success and failure to learn from them. Be honest.

The Fool now needs to make the final Judgement about his life. Now that he has shed his false ego and is more equipped to see and accept himself for who truly is, he needs to decide what to shed and what to keep with him to move forward.

Keywords:
Upright – Rite of Passage, Mature, Review, Transition
Reverse – Refusing to Change, Feeling Stuck, Numbness, Feeling Judged, Being Judgemental

21. The World

This card brings in an ending and a new beginning. It urges you to move beyond your own personal quest and think in terms of what you can give back to the world.

This card brings The Fool's Journey to a full circle as his current journey ends and he is ready to take on a new adventure. What kind of journey will he take on next?

Keywords:
Upright – Integration, Completion, Options, Wholeness, Connection
Reverse – Overwhelmed, Difficulty Finishing, Clinging to Past


That is it! We have now covered the Major Arcana through The Fool's Journey. We have certainly covered your Soul/Personality/Shadow Card today if we hadn't done it before. Did it resonate with you?

Shall we take a break and take time to get more acclimated with the Major Arcana cards? Or would you like a round up? Or shall we move on to Minor Arcana. Leave your intentions in the comment section.


QOTD: What is your main takeaway from The Fool's Journey. Which Major Aracana card did you feel most & least drawn to?




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Wednesday, 6 October 2021

My Favourite Food Joints In Vizag - #MyFriendAlexa

October 06, 2021 32 Comments



I am a typical Bheto Bengali. Food and I go hand in hand. It’s mutual love, we both love each other. I love to cook and eat and the food loves to be eaten by me.

I left Kolkata in 2009. However, no matter where I am, I try to find food like Kolkata. Most of the places disappoint me; still, I am always able to find something tasty to eat.

I am here in Vizag for the last three years, and was able to find some food joints that I love.

Disclaimer:
I am in no way claiming these are the best places to eat or make the best food or the other places do not offer good food. All I want to say is they are my favourite.




Let’s start exploring...


The Chaiwala in front of SFS State Board Gate:

In Seethamadhara, if you come from the Tech Mahindra junction, you will find SFS State Board School on your left side. Just in front of the main gate, there is a small tea stall. I have no idea what is the name of the tea stall. It is run by a young couple. And what allam (ginger) tea they make. I am literally in love with the allam tea. You have a cup of it, and all your tiredness, worries are gone.

Kolkata Roll Centre:

In Dhaba Garden, there is a pantaloons showroom, just beside the showroom, there is a lane, and some food stalls are there. And there is Kolkata Roll Centre. In no way, it serves the authentic Kolkata rolls, but the noodles they make is really good. The chicken noodles they serve actually tastes like Kolkata roadside, thela wala (stall) noodles. It’s like a dash of Kolkata taste away from my love, Kolkata.

The Momowala in front of Bay View Hotel:

In front of Bay View Hotel in RK beach, you will find the best Momos in Vizag. The main cook is a Nepali guy, and hence, the momos are really good. They serve red chilli chutney with the momos, and it tastes like northeast India. Also, they serve really tasty chicken sweet corn soup.

Upland Bistro:

This restaurant serves the best continental in Vizag, hand down. This restaurant is run by an Odia guy name Kalyan. I am a regular here. I have tried many dishes from the menu, and they are actually good. I have also tried many other continental restaurants here in Vizag, most of the time the food is actually, sorry for the word, shit. The fish and chip from this restaurant is my favourite.

Cafe Military:

Located on the Venkojipalem highway, they serve one of the best tiffin in Vizag. I simply love the Masala Dosa, the dosa is crispy, and the aloo masala is super tasty. I can literally eat it, every morning, if there is a possibility. It’s just my lazy husband refuses to take me there every morning.

Soda Paniwala:

The summer here in Vizag is really cruel. And the only way I survive the brutish sun is by drinking gallons of sweet soda pani. I have probably tried the all the Soda Pani stalls in Vizag. They all are life-saving, in the summertime. I even tried my best to impress them with my Telegu speaking skills for some extra, they mostly ignore me (my Telegu is a disaster). Still, hoping to befriend one for some extra soda pani, for free of course.

Samosa from Sea Pearl:

In Kolkata, you get the best samosas. I have tried samosas from various parts of South India, and they are not good. However, Sea Pearl restaurant on RK Beach serves one of the best samosas, in Vizag. The dough is perfectly kneaded with a hint of ajwain. The filling is heavenly, fried to perfection, served with sweet chutney. The combination is to die for.

The honourable motions are Idli from Mr And Mrs Idli, Biryani from Satyam restaurant & Raju's Kitchen, North Indian veg thali from Shree Shyam restaurant, veg cuisine from Santosh Dhaba, Bengali food from Hotel Nimantran Inn, and many, many more.


Happy Eating







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Thursday, 30 September 2021

Major Arcana: The Fool's Journey (Part 2) - #TarotThursday #MyFriendAlexa

September 30, 2021 0 Comments

 



Welcome back to the second instalment of The Fool's Journey. Be sure to start this section with Part 1 of The Fool's Journey where I have covered the first 7 cards of the Major Arcana. Just a refresher - The Fool’s Journey is a story that we can tell in order to help us get a glimpse into each Major Arcana making it easier to understand the set. In this part, we will cover next 7 cards, starting with The Chariot.


7. The Chariot


The Chariot tells you to take control of your life. Staying focused and harnessing all of your resources will eventually get you where you want to go. It also signifies travel and movement.

The Chariot teaches The Fool that He has everything that he needs. All he needs to do is stay focused and disciplined in order to reach his goals.

Keywords:
Upright – Momentum, Competence, Self-Discipline, Control, Determination
Reverse – Rushing, Stress, Undisciplined

8.  Strength



The Strength card urges you to look within and draw from your inner strength and find a balance between your basic drives and higher aspirations. In case of conflict, the card urges you to face your adversary with love and compassion.

The Fool's lesson from this card is that he is resilient and fearless, and can accomplish anything he sets his mind to.

Keywords:
Upright – Instinct, Inner Strength, Survival, Courage
Reverse – Compulsive Behaviour, Weakness, Reactive Emotions, Fear, Lack of Confidence

9. The Hermit


The Hermit signifies a need or desire to withdraw from the world. It may be an indication that you need time to withdraw from the world, introspect while you rejuvenate yourself. It could also be advising you to seek a wise and experienced guide/counselor/mentor.

The Fool realises that he may sometime need to seek the answers he is looking for within himself and sometimes he may need a mentor to help him find what he is looking for.

Keywords:

Upright – Solitude, Introspection, Perspective, Wisdom, Guidance
Reverse – Antisocial, Needing Solitude, Feeling Lost, Loneliness

10. Wheel of Fortune



The Wheel of Fortune reminds us that change is inevitable. As such, it is important to center yourself and stay calm when the world around you seems to be spinning out of control.

This cards teaches The Fool that life is fluid and full of ups and downs. He will never stay in the same position for long. It is important to remember the good times so that when it gets stressful and/or painful, he should remember what it is like to be happy too.

Keywords:
Upright – Taking Action, Change, Movement, Destiny, Luck, Expansion
Reverse – Lack of Control, Confusion, Ongoing Struggle, Setbacks, Bad Luck

11. Justice


Justice appears when it is time to balance the scales. It indicated that actions will have consequences and truth will catch up. It is time to think logically.

Justice teaches The Fool that the truth behind everything will eventually come to light and there will be repercussions.

Keywords:
Upright – Fairness, Balance, Ethics, Law, Accountability
Reverse – Extremes, Unbalanced, Self-Centered, Lacking Objectivity, Unfair

12. The Hanged Man


The Hanged man is the card of patience, contemplation and sacrifice.  It urges you to observe your environment and situation from a new perspective. A sacrifice may be required in order to move forward.

The Fool realises that doing something else for a while may be worthwhile because it will help him clear his head so he can succeed. A sacrifice may be required of a small dream in order to fulfil a bigger goal.

Keywords:
Upright – Surrender, New Perspective, Patience, Sacrifice, Release
Reverse – Procrastination, Victim Mentality, Hypocrisy

13. Death

Death is a card of and ending before an utter transformation. It urges you to let go and embrace change and seek closure before moving on.

The Fool learns not to be scared of what's to come as he knows that the future holds bigger and better things for him.

Keywords:
Upright – Transformation, Ending, Closure, Regeneration
Reverse – Burning Bridges, Running Away, Fear of Change, Refusing to Let Go

14. Temperance


Temperance is a card of integration and finding balance. Finding a balance between emotions and practicality is important to be able to put a steady foot forward. Some compromise may be necessary.

As a part of The Fool's journey came to an end with the Death Card, Temperance teaches him the value of compromise and adjustment while moving forward as two or more things come together to create something new, or bring fruition to what The Fool was working on before.

Keywords:
Upright – Integration, Creation, Compromise, Experiments
Reverse – Over Compromise, Rigidity, No Consensus


That is it for today. 7 cards remain in the Major Arcana for us to handle in the next post.


QOTD: Have we covered your Soul/Personality/Shadow Card today? If yes, what impressions do you have of your cards so far?




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Wednesday, 29 September 2021

Poison - #MyFriendAlexa

September 29, 2021 41 Comments



 What’s your Poison... She asked me

I replied, Pain

She seems disappointed with my answer.

I asked, 

What’s yours?

She said...Love

Looking at my own reflection, I enquired, 

How can it be? Aren’t we the same.

She smiled and said......NO





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Thursday, 23 September 2021

Major Arcana: The Fool's Journey (Part 1) - #TarotThursday #MyFriendAlexa

September 23, 2021 30 Comments

 


So, did you guys read my last post ‘How would you like to discover yourself in the cards?’ and did you look up your personality, soul and shadow cards? And did they truly resonate with you?

Traditional Tarot decks – like The Rider-Waite deck, have 78 cards. 22 Major Arcana cards and 56 Minor Arcana cards, with 4 suits of 14 cards each. The Major Arcana represents major incidents, situations and learning curves of your life while the Minor Arcana cards deals with the everyday trials, tribulations, and situations of your everyday life.

The Major Arcana cards appear in your reading when you need to stop, take a moment, and pay attention to the theme in your life and the lesson that life is offering you. They also set the ‘scene’ for a reading and let the Minor Arcana cards add some more important details and some shades that relate to the bigger picture that the Major Arcana is painting.

Today, we will take on the Fool’s Journey to study the Major Arcana cards. The Fool’s Journey is a story that we can tell in order to help us get a glimpse into each Major Arcana making it easier to understand the set.

The first card in the Major Arcana is ‘0. The Fool’



The Fool stands for a new beginning. As you can see, he has his necessities packed and his pet with him and excited about the journey he is about to embark on. There is a sense of excitement and optimism about the new adventure.

We start the story with The Fool starting on a new journey with a blank slate, optimism, and adventure.

Keywords:
Upright – Trust, Innocence, Open Mind, Beginning.
Reverse – Foolish, Naïve, Reckless, Close Minded, Distrust

1. The Magician


The magician has the resources and potential to make things happen, but intention and action are both required.

So, the first lesson that The Fool learns is he has the power to create and manifest what he wants. He only needs to tap into his full potential.

Keywords:
Upright – Personal Power, Intention, Will, Resourcefulness
Reverse – Lacking Skills or Resources, Intention without Action, Trickery, Illusion


2. The High Priestess


The High Priestess encourages you to build up on and expand on your inner knowledge, to trust your intuition and notice synchronicity as you go through your days. Look within for the answers that you are asking.

The second lesson that The Fool learns is that he needs to reflect and learn about himself through religion, nature, meditation, and spirituality. Sometimes it becomes important to listen to your intuition over everything else. Heart over mind.

Keywords:
Upright – Inner Wisdom, Receptivity Spirituality, Meditation
Reverse – Secretive, Withdrawn, Ignoring Intuition, Gossip, Disconnected from Sexuality


3. The Empress


The Empress is the mother figure in the Major Arcana. She is the nurturer. She encourages to connect/network not only with people who can be mentors and friends and have a positive effect on your life, but also with nature and things that can help you develop yourself and grow. Connect with your sensuality.

The third lesson that The Fool learns is that it is important to take care of yourself and nurture relationships, interests, and skills in order to grow.

Keywords:
Upright – Nurturing, Creativity, Sensitivity, Mother Figure
Reverse – Smothering, Burn Out, Possessiveness, Blocked Creativity


4. The Emperor


The Emperor is the father figure in the Major Arcana. He encourages logical and rational thinking, to try and increase stability in any situation.

The fourth lesson that The Fool Learns is that it is important to think strategically and logically when pursuing his dreams.

Keywords:
Upright – Power, Structure, Stability, Authority, Father Figure
Reverse – Controlling, Egotistical, Giving Up Power, Abuse of Power, Lacking Structure


5. The Hierophant


The Hierophant wants you to pause and take a look at your own beliefs. Are they flexible or are they rigid? Do they help you in your learning curve or stops you from growing?

The lesson that The Fool Learns from the Hierophant is that wanting to follow pre-established societal norms instead of trying some new or taking an uncharted path may not always the right thing for him.

Keywords:
Upright – Teacher, Belief System, Knowledge, Conscientious, Responsibility
Reverse – Dogmatic, Fundamentalist, Iconoclast, Unethical Teacher


6. The Lovers

The Lovers card encourages you to take a look what is in both your heart and mind. And whenever you make a choice, take complete ownership and responsibility of the choices you have made.

The Lovers teaches The Fool to cherish and celebrate the love he has in his life in all forms. Whether it’s a lover, or a partner, or parents, or friends, and even self-love.

Keywords:
Upright – Love, Union, Cooperation, Choice, Sexuality
Reverse – Incompatibility, Uncooperative, Unrequited Love, Disconnection between the Heart and the Mind.



QOTD: Have we covered your Soul/Personality/Shadow Card today? If yes, what impressions do you have of your cards so far?





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Wednesday, 22 September 2021

My Seasonal Lover - #MyFriendAlexa

September 22, 2021 52 Comments



My plane landed around 5 AM on an October morning in 2018. I am in a new city and I have to call it home for the next few years. I was happy to finally leave Hyderabad, but not sure what to expect from this new city.

I got my language and came out of the airport. I knew that nobody is coming to pick me up, still hoped to see a familiar face. Mr. Anirudh Gaurav said he can’t pick me up for some reason, I forgot the reason, however, remember I was mad.

A grey, gloomy and rainy city welcomed me with not much enthusiasm. I never disliked a rainy day like this.

I booked my Uber and patiently waited outside the airport. My Uber came and I started my journey into this new city. I more I entered the city, the more I hated it. I finally reached my destination, MVP Colony. Gaurav was there to receive me, but to my surprise, what welcomed me is the Devil’s Tree, in front of the hotel.

It was like Durga Puja welcoming me outside Kolkata. I was in love.

Gaurav left for work, and I began my hunt for a new home (rented house). I roamed every lane, every street of MVP colony. And every corner there was a Devil’s Tree waiting to tempt me with its smell. I was trying to get some flowers from the tree and some lady told me not to, as it is poisonous.

And in my mind, the smell of the flower is my poison. I don’t know how dangerous this is for asthma patients, but this is definitely harmful to me. It makes my desires run wild. No kidding it’s called the seductive Casanova of smells.

The smell would arrive every year, during Durga Puja (September end to October) stay till December to wish me on my birthday. I reached this new city in October and thank God it was October. Otherwise, how would I know Devil’s Tree will be waiting for me with open arms.

The smell takes me back to my teenage years. Someone would be waiting for me and I was ignorant enough to ignore him. The smell takes me to my first love, first heartbreak, and first tears of pain.

Yet, this smell is so toxic for me that I can’t simply imagine Durga Puja or winter without it.

Then the unavoidable happens, by the time winter is over, the smell leaves me like a seasonal lover. I am heartbroken and missing my love. I try my best not to embrace the last hint of the smell, as I know it will leave me high and dry.

Yet how can I not, long for it as long it’s there, it’s like the forbidden lover. He is toxic, poisonous, going to leave me to suffer for sure, yet so passionate with his love and desires.

It’s been three winters. The air, the streets, and the people feel much familiar to me now. I have made it a home, my Vizag.  

Yet in those lonely nights in my balcony, I long for my poison. I am madly in love with this toxic flower called Chatim Ful (in Bengali) and last but not least, a poisonous someone. It’s so difficult to reason with my feelings. What I know for sure is I want him. And he can't be mine, ever. A pain I endure with all my affection. 




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Monday, 20 September 2021

'You're a #feminist icon, Rafael.' - #MyFriendAlexa #MondayBlogs

September 20, 2021 27 Comments


I started watching Law & Order: Special Victims Unit after reading Piu’s post about her favourite TV shows. And once I started watching, I was hooked!

SVU, as the name suggests, is about special victims and mostly known as the sex crimes unit. In the first season we find out that it is a unit made up of agents who join it voluntarily. Once you know that, and watch a few of the episodes, you have a certain amount of respect for the agents who work there. It is not easy to handle the cases that they handle and then go back to normal life. It is no wonder that most of the agents who work there are single. After the kind of crimes, they deal with every day – the fact that some of them still believe in decent humans is nothing but a wonder to me.

As the seasons’ progressed, I collected quite a few favourite characters. Olivia Benson, the face of the series, is an amazing character. The amount of compassion she has for each victim, the way she turns up at her job day after day with all heart is really amazing! There’s Odafin ‘Fin’ Tutuola who his just there, every day, doing his job and a background that he doesn’t talk much about. Then there is Dominick Carisi who enters the scenes with an attitude that has Olivia Benson asking, ‘Carisi, remind me why you're SVU, again?’

Carisi’s response was:

I worked Homicide, couple years. It's the women who get you. I mean, they're dead, but their hair's clean, they're nicely dressed, they're made up. And that means their husbands, or their boyfriends did it. It's like they knew. They knew it was coming. They don't even look surprised.


And the way he says it – it surprises you and he grows as the show progresses.



But the one character that will stay with me even after the show is over is Rafael Barba, Assistant District Attorney. Barba is introduced to the audience in Season 14 as a recurring character and then becomes a part of the main cast till Season 19.

When Barba first shows up, he is almost ruthless – with the reputation as someone who will take on the toughest cases, even the ones that no one else will touch. He slowly warms up to the SVU and develops a good friendship with Olivia Benson. He is ruthless – he pushes the members of the SVU, the suspects and sometimes even the victims to get the results that we want. At the same time, he can also be calm and composed in the courtroom. Some of my favourite scenes involves him being extremely quiet and calm when the defence attorneys are ripping the witnesses apart and using the dirtiest tricks in the book. 

I liked him from almost the beginning, but as the show progressed his character arc grew by leaps and bounds. Everyone on SVU do their best to make the world a better place by placing their faith in the victims and then fighting to put the perpetrators behind the bars. But then Barba doesn’t just do his own job but goes one step further!

In Flight Risk (Season 19, Episode 11), a flight attendant is raped by the pilot, and the company not only covers it up but forces the flight attendant to continue working with him in close quarters despite promising her otherwise. Once SVU manages to put the pilot away for rape – this is a (slightly paraphrased – as much as I can remember) discussion that Olivia Benson and Barba has shortly after:


Benson: Putting away a single pilot rapist isn’t enough?
Barba: No, it's not. The whole culture has to change. All the people who enabled Captain Carter should be in that cell with him.
Benson: Yes, they should. But unfortunately, being sexist, misogynistic pigs isn't a crime.
Barba: It should be.


Barba goes on to hold a grand jury  to charge the airline company with grand larceny. It is his way of trying to make a difference - by trying to change the law that lets people look away and pretend that nothing is wrong. He knows that it is a long shot; that he can only try and probably not be able to make such a huge change in his lifetime, yet he fights for it anyway.


So, when Olivia Benson says,
'You're a feminist icon, Rafael', I could only agree enthusiastically and applaud 'Rafa' in front of the screen.

Knowing that someone like him is a part of the judicial system would bring hope to everyone and I’d love to have someone like him in my life.

But Alas! He is just a fictional character!!






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Thursday, 16 September 2021

How would you like to discover yourself in the cards? #TarotThursday #MyFriendAlexa

September 16, 2021 31 Comments
I hope that you found my last post, 5 Things You Need to Know Before You Start Reading Tarot, informative and helpful. As we move closer to discovering the secrets of Tarot, I want to tell you about one of the biggest secrets of Tarot that I did not know till a couple of months back. You can find yourself in the cards!

Now, that doesn’t mean that you’ll find your picture or name on a card. Nor does it mean that it will spill out all your deepest or darkest secrets. Or tell you your future! But what it will do is place your archetype and assign a couple of cards to you. They represent your soul, your personality, and your shadow self. It is like zodiac signs if you will. They show what are the most dominant energies when it comes to you and the character traits that you are likely to have. 

Are you a little bit curious now? All you need is your full date of birth and basic addition skills!


What is a Personality Card?

Have you heard the saying that goes like – we have all come into this world with a purpose and once we find that purpose, we can be happy and fulfilled? I know, that was a very rough version of the proverb, but I just couldn’t remember the exact words of it. Anyway, if you have heard it before, and if you are anything like me, the first thought in your mind would ‘that’s all very lovely, but how do I find my life’s purpose?’

Well, the Personality Card is tells you about the lesson you are supposed to learn in this lifetime. Whether it is resolve you past issues or whether it is to grow comfortable in your skin or whether it is to learn to be patient or forgiveness. How you get there is up to you. Good old Tarot! It is here only to nudge you – the path you take is completely up to YOU.

What is a Soul Card?

Now that you know what the personality card stands for, you can probably guess what the Soul card stands for. Whether you believe in re-incarnation or not, the soul card can tell you your soul’s purpose. And since we are always evolving and discovering more about ourselves, who would say no to a little bit of extra help?

The Soul Card represents the very core of who you are. It is why you react the way you do or do the things that you didn’t think you could or ever would.

How to find out your Personality & Soul Cards?

To determine these two cards you add together your month, day, and year of birth. For instance, 31 August 1960 is 31+08+1960 = 1999

If you know even the basic numerology, you know we need to keep adding till we get the basic number in single digit. But in this case, since the Major Arcana Cards go upto 22, we need to add our numbers down to or below 22. So, 1999 will go further down to 1+9+9+9 = 28 and further 2+8 = 10
In this case, 10 is the Personality Cards number & it corresponds to Wheel of Fortune

We need to go one step further to get the Soul Card number. So, from 10 we get – 1+0 = 1
And the Soul Card number is 1 which corresponds to The Magician.

Now some of you may be going, but hey I got down to a single digit right at the personality card… what should I do for the soul card number? Well, you can have the same card for soul & personality cards. I am one of those people in fact. My date of birth adds up to 2010 and so I am left with 3 (The Empress) as both my Personality and Soul Cards.

What is the Shadow Card?

In psychology, shadow-self is the side of your personality that you consciously / subconsciously / unconsciously do not admit to (or do not want to admit to) having, depending on how self-aware you are. So, it would probably make sense to you if I said that a shadow card is what you don’t see or fear or reject about yourself. If you really want to change your life around, this is the card (I would say) you want to really pay attention to.

How to find out your Shadow Card?

Keep your soul and personality number handy for this one as I can think of only one way to explain this one – with examples. Remember the 31 August 1960 example we handled before? The Personality & Soul Card numbers that came out of it were 10 & 1. In this case the Shadow Factor card would be 19 – The Sun. 

Another example was that my own, where my Personality & Soul cards are the same, The Empress. In my case, 12 & 21 are my Shadow Cards.

The basic number remains the same. 1 in the first case, and 3 in the second case. You'll need to find the Shadow card by find the third number that adds up to the same basic number. So, in case your personality number is 13 and 22, your Shadow Card is 4.

However, if your birthday adds up to a number between 14 to 18, then you will have no Hidden Factor Card because these numbers are called Night-time Cards. In such cases, shadow aspects are an integral part of the personality of the person.

Here’s the list of Major Arcana cards corresponding to it’s number for you:

0 or 22: The Fool
1: The Magician
2: The High Priestess
3: The Empress
4: The Emperor
5: The Hierophant
6: The Lovers
7: The Chariot
8: Strength
9: The Hermit
10: Wheel of Fortune
11: Justice
12: The Hanged Man
13: Death
14: Temperance
15: The Devil
16: The Tower
17: The Star
18: The Moon
19: The Sun
20: Judgement
21: The World

We will obviously be learning about the Major Arcana next. But let's calculate your Personality, Soul & Shadow card numbers and look them up. Check out both the positive & negative aspects of each card and let me know if they resonate with you in the comments.







Disclaimer:
Remember, Tarot Cards DO NOT control you or your life.  They are just a tool and it is up to you to decide how to use it. Your choices and luck are of your own making, using the cards as a guideline. Reflect on the cards you get, take what resonates, and discard what doesn't.


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Wednesday, 15 September 2021

I am a Man - #MyFriendAlexa

September 15, 2021 1 Comments


Recently I came across a video by an alcohol brand where actor Sanjay Dutt is promoting the right kind of Masculinity (read Toxic), urging people to consume this particular alcohol, and become a real man.

The video is so toxic and stereotypical that even the most stereotypical men will find it offensive.


Now the point is, we all talk about female stereotypes, we all fight it in our own way (I hope we all do). But face it, female stereotypes are the real issue, but we also need to address the other elephant in the room, the male stereotypes. They are so interconnected that we can’t move forwards without addressing both issues.

According to various analysts and researchers, male characters fall within a range of stereotypes. 

The most popular stereotypes of male characters are:

The Joker: The funny who no one takes seriously, he is there just for the comic relief, most importantly, no girl wants to date him.

The Jock: He is athletic, muscular, date the sexiest girl, is usually dumb, and sucks at studies.

The Strong Silent Type: He exudes strength by taking action without expressing or worrying about their emotions. He loves to deny his emotions and feelings. Denial is his poison. 

The Big Shot: These are the people who think they are mighty or they are acting like they are better than everybody else when in reality they are not.

The Action Hero: This is the one with a savior complex. It’s his job to save someone, especially a girl. We see them everywhere with their inflated muscles and egos. 

The Buffoon: Commonly described as a bungling father figure. They are usually well-intentioned and light-hearted, however completely hopeless when it comes to parenting, dealing with domestic or career issues.

However, when we dig dipper, one common theme in all the stereotypes are 
“be a man, suck it up,”


Let us see what are the most common male stereotypes:


Vulnerability: The biggest stereotyped male behaviour is showing Vulnerability. Hey are suppose to be the MAN, can’t ask for help, can’t show fear, he will not express his love, in short, a robot with muscles.

And when they actually ask for help, they have penalized for the challenge of this notion.

Emotions (Sadness): The only emotion a man is allowed to show is his anger. In various cultures, men are socialized to be stoic.

And when they show any other emotion other than anger they are showed with amazing adjectives like being pussy.

Love for Sports: Men are supposed to love sports, especially the aggressive ones, like rugby, football, basketball.

Control their woman: A man have to be in control of his home, especially his wife. If one can’t control their wife, it’s a big shame.

Modesty: Men are expected to be proud of their achievements. Research shows that men who were more modest about their qualifications were evaluated as less likable.

Now, what we can do about it…

The simplest answer here is to teach our children to be more compassionate to everyone, celebrate men who dare to express their emotions, broaden gender stereotypical roles, most importantly do not gender police.

Let’s start this discussion with the wise words of Nelson Mandela,

“We slaughter one another in our words and attitudes. We slaughter one another in the stereotypes and mistrust that linger in our heads, and the words of hate we spew from our lips.” 




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